Firstly, I didn't know he was a club member until well after I'd bought them and arranged to collect them!
Secondly, don't you see that’s a contradiction?
If you we a gentleman, you would abide by the rules of the system. It's not like I did anything wrong or cheated after all. I play by the rules and expect others to do like wise. You can't change the rules when it suits you, if only life was that convenient eh!
I've had email conversations with ebay members and then subsequently lost the bid, I don't cry about it, I don't try and make the buyer back down, I just get on with it.
It really is quite simple. When it happens to you, for something you "really" want and have been after for a while, you will understand better I think... It's easy to speculate when it doesn't affect you...
PS: lol well I can sleep at night because the seller was 100% happy to sell them at that price. He was a really nice guy and neither of us were put out by this