I can see both sides Vil.
Sometimes, like you, I cringe at what some of us "oldies" say to new people, and I think there are a (very) few people on here that are really brave when sat at home on their PC, but wouldn't dream of being so off-hand if they met the same person in a pub.
On the other hand, like many, I hate the thought of the club being "taken over" by chavy texters who are more worried about their street cred than anything else.
In the ideal world, we would all cut everybody a little slack until they proved themselves (or not) but I don't have huge sympathy for anybody asking " wots it wurf then" but that may be my advanced years !
G