BEERSHZ Posted January 23, 2008 Share Posted January 23, 2008 Today i had a yearly appraisal at work, which was all good. I have only been a dept mamager for 6 months in retail but today they offered me Night Duty Manager,as our store going 24hr Currently i work 5 11 hr days new position would be 4 9-11hr nights a pay increase approx 4k, The problem i have is 1. other half he works 6am - 7pm sometimes 7 days a week often away from home, when he,s home usually he in bed by 8pm up at 4.30/5 am. 2. he says we will see less of each other !!! and kicking up a stink. Should i insist on furthering my prospects (this is why i started this job) or give in to him and be stuck in a day position just changing depts with no different responsibility Kids are all off our hands almost, youngest just started work so thats not an issue. Whos the selfish one me or him, what would you say to your other half Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbleapple Posted January 23, 2008 Share Posted January 23, 2008 I did some night shifts once. You don't realise how much it mucks around with your systems. I.e. you have a day off and your whole body is out of synch. It used to make me feel sick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian R Posted January 23, 2008 Share Posted January 23, 2008 Congrats on the offer, however they are getting you on the cheap. Was a night manager for Tesco for 11 years (Senior Night manager) was in 24hr stores as well and my night premium was £5k on its own. The facts are you only really get one day off a week as the first day you sleep most of it. I can honestly say that now I am back on days I have so much more time. If I was you I would look at developing for a day position. Because once you are on nights you will never get off Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keancy Posted January 23, 2008 Share Posted January 23, 2008 Not an easy decision to make specially if you have Family. Your relationship could suffer in the long run and if it were me I would question if a promotion and extra money are worth it!! Good luck with deciding mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
supra61 Posted January 23, 2008 Share Posted January 23, 2008 I did nights loved the money but played havoc with my system and nearly cost me my relationship.Have a good long think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrickTT Posted January 24, 2008 Share Posted January 24, 2008 I've worked nights for 8 years now, and its one of those things you can either do or not. Personally i prefer nights and have no problems sleeping in the day. I normally go to bed around 6am and i'm up for midday. I would see if you can get some sort of trial period to see if you can cope with the sleep patterns, as some people just cant get used to it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ozz Posted January 24, 2008 Share Posted January 24, 2008 My ex worked nights, note ex as we drifted apart and I moved in with someone else. Unless you have a really good foundation (in which case you would be discussing this with him and not a forum) then it might work, otherwise you'll probably find he'll get fed up of you not being around and find someone else as it already sounds like he's building resentment. Just my opinion, easy to state as I don't know you or your relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted January 24, 2008 Share Posted January 24, 2008 I think it basically boils down to the question......Do want your job or your relationship more. One thing is pretty much certain, you won't get both unless you are very lucky..... I would have a long chat with your partner and way up the pro's and cons. 4k isn't that much after tax and NI..... H. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CJ Posted January 24, 2008 Share Posted January 24, 2008 The problem i have is 1. other half he works 6am - 7pm sometimes 7 days a week often away from home, when he,s home usually he in bed by 8pm up at 4.30/5 am. 2. he says we will see less of each other !!! and kicking up a stink. I am going to go against the majority here and say to take it. I am guessing (and seeing as I know nothing about the real situation it has to be a guess) that your relationship isn't great now given the limited amount of time you have together. I say that as if you look at the above, you are not exactly seeing lots of each other now eh? How can it get worse? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BEERSHZ Posted January 24, 2008 Author Share Posted January 24, 2008 thanks guys. all your comments have been most helpfull ,we do have a great relationship weve been together 30 years the money is not an issue he'd be happy for me too stay at home full time as he has a good job we have no mortgage etc etc. Its more the experience im after but i wouldnt put that before my relationship even if it sounds like i am. We dont get much time together but its always been that way its the nature of his job, and something we are used too. Makes the time we are together together more enjoyable. I was more annoyed that he said i couldnt do it!! I am gonna think long and hard about it as even my fellow managers seem to think im mad to even consider it, even tho they think i would be good at it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neil tt Posted January 24, 2008 Share Posted January 24, 2008 Don't do it, my wife does part time nights, and its a pain:( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vvteye Posted January 24, 2008 Share Posted January 24, 2008 Because once you are on nights you will never get off how long were you on nights for... what a waste of all those lonely mornings Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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