View Full Version : Broken up with girlfriend, going crazy!!!!!!
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 11:47
Bloody hell whats going on ???!!!! I've just broken up with my Girlfriend of 5 and half years. And she was my best friend, always so caring and supportive, been the best years ever, lived with her for 2 years. Not looking forward to her collecting her stuff either. Everything was great till about 2 weeks ago when she just seemed different. I've tried to make her feel wanted incase it was me as she said she was fine. Then on wed night went back to stay at her parents and hasn't been back since. Now we've broken up.... I want to get back with her or give her space but how can i when I know she'l have to come round to collect some or all of her things? Its so hard to get on with things, cooking dinner, sleeping on your own and just everthing when I'm so used to her being here. Can't stop feeling angry one minute then just so low the next... She hasn't gotta house key now so should i just let her collect her things and act all ok about it I don't know? Or do i try talking to her even though she doesn't seem to wanna talk? She says she wants to collect some things in my texts, she doesn't say all her things. Don't know if that means she'l be back? doe's she care secretly? If so why doesn't she say to my face or text, she doesn't even put a kiss or 'love you' in her texts now. I'm supposed to be going on this basingstoke meet today but don't know if i feel like it. But then i feel so shit when alone in my empty home reminded of her. I'm so confused on whats going on now and whats going on in her head!!!!!! PLEASE HELP if anyone has answers or advice.
When she comes for her stuff chain her to a chair, that way she can't leave you. Simple eh?
God mate sorry to hear that. Seem it is break up season at the moment as this is about the third thread along this lines in the last few weeks.
I am not very good at these things but Chin up Dude, give her a little Space and maybe she will open up and tell you what is wrong in a few days. If you find it to hard to cope when she comes to collect her stuff why don't you see if one of your mutual mates will come to your place when she comes over and go out yourself??
Good luck Chap x
some times a bit of time out can do good for both,TBH apart from talking to her and asking theres not much more taht can be done. have you though about a short beak away with the girlfriend may be that give you a better chance to talk.
Just hope it works out well for you pal
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 11:54
When she comes for her stuff chain her to a chair, that way she can't leave you. Simple eh?
Thats what I feel like doing as she just won't tell me properly whats going on. She leaves me, lives with parents for few nights, breaks up days later, then says she'l pick up few things....why not collect all her things?! That way she she can get on with her life and so can i. Does she wanna come back to me again eventually. If so why doesn't she just tell me?
She's a woman. Don't expect any logic.
Unfortunately people just sometimes grow apart and there's nothing you can do. It's an old cliché, but time is the best healer.
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 11:56
Tried to take her away for short break abroad as could see something was up other week but she didn't want to go, she said all is fine... Wish I had done more.
Whitesupraboy2
29-06-08, 11:57
Being honest, it sounds like she's made her decision. I would prob act ok about it in person, if it bothers her she will txt you, my opinion is I wont force someone to be with me, they will be with me because they want too.
Maybe the reason she only wants to collect some stuff, is because she has no where to keep it all? I would say can you come collect the rest of yours stuff next weekend if thats ok. not in a mean way.
However it sounds like you want to try and solve the problem, but I get the feeling you dont know what the problem is? You could ask her what has changed so you have an idea, im guessing she may come with a mate to collect her stuff so you dont ask questions.
supra-lover
29-06-08, 11:57
plenty more fish in the sea my friend, if my girl did that to me i'd say ok buy :)
Sorry to here that buddy but If it was me, I'd bag up all her sh!t and leave it out in the garden, then go to the meet today.
Give her space, dont pester her to come come back as it will just push her further away, if it was me i would just try to get on with life for the next few days and play it cool, different circumstances but i went though this when leigh lost a baby, sent her a bit mad:rolleyes:
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 12:01
Only thing she says is I didn't let her go out see friends and I'm sometimes too controlling. But talking to her parents and everyone else they said how can she say that as she was always out as much as me. No one else saw this breakup coming as we always were so happy, I just find it so hard to except that shes gone.
Some people are not comfortable in telling problems and expressing there feeelings , i no my other halfs the same, i can sense there is something wrong but like getting blood out of a stone to find the problem so tend to leave it and she usually tells her self.
the lastthing you want to be really doing is keep on about what s wrong wont make things better, is there any good trustworthy people that get on with your lady that can speak to her as some times people find it easier to speak to a mutual person then the person they are splitting with.
I know its hard fella but try be strong and like people have said times the only heeler, and yes you should go to supra meet that will help take your mind off things for a bit.
Sounds like she's not 100% sure that the new chap is an upgrade yet so she's keeping her options open.
Sounds like she's not 100% sure that the new chap is an upgrade yet so she's keeping her options open.
:rolleyes:
:rolleyes:
Sorry I forgot that everyone else is allowed an opinion apart from me.
supra-lover
29-06-08, 12:21
Sounds like she's not 100% sure that the new chap is an upgrade yet so she's keeping her options open.
:wow::rlol:
Sorry I forgot that everyone else is allowed an opinion apart from me.
It's not that but your comment is probably the last thing the Bloke needs to hear right now when he is upset already, even if it may be true. Have you no feelings?
Jspec Germany
29-06-08, 12:24
When I first read this thread, I thought the same thing. It should be at least considered as a possibility. As mentioned before, move on, go to a meet, do something else. If you're meant to be with her, it'll happen.
Moving on is very easy said then done,
i agree with micheal here, that was exactly what happened to me after 10 years, if i was to do it again, and i gess my advice, is to sort out her stuff and tell her to collect it all, dont call and dont text. sort yourself out and then have some fun!
plenty more fish in the sea my friend, if my girl did that to me i'd say ok buy :)
Buy what?:search::D
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 12:33
Sounds like she's not 100% sure that the new chap is an upgrade yet so she's keeping her options open.
That had crossed my mind... its just she used to get well mad with friends who'd cheat, like actually angry with them and stuff. Thats why if she has a new bloke its so out of character. 2 weeks ago when I felt something was up i asked if she was happy. I even said are you happy with us do we need a bit of time apart. She said she wants me and to not be stupid. I just don't get it. On Tue everything was great, wed different girl.
Without even reading Michaels comment I was gonna reply and say she's probably been with someone else, certainly sounds like it. Although I was seeing it in better light and in my mind she's probably either been with someone else or at least thought about it, and felt guilty because of the way she feels about you, so she decided it was best to just get out and make some space, to get straight in her head what the situation is.
So really that's a good thing (if she has done this), because normally they do it behind your back and let it all out in the middle of a big argument how much better their other bloke is - at least she cares enough about you to make a clean break as soon as it starts (2 weeks you say?).
//edit: With your last comment, matches what I was saying, she's not a cheater so she's cheating the good way, by breaking up with you as soon as. Just a shame she couldn't come and talk to you about it as well. :(
supra-lover
29-06-08, 12:35
Buy what?:search::D
a bag of chips :)
That had crossed my mind... its just she used to get well mad with friends who'd cheat, like actually angry with them and stuff. Thats why if she has a new bloke its so out of character. 2 weeks ago when I felt something was up i asked if she was happy. I even said are you happy with us do we need a bit of time apart. She said she wants me and to not be stupid. I just don't get it. On Tue everything was great, wed different girl.
perhaps she is just embarassed and ashamed that she is no better than her freinds who cheat.....
always expect the unexpected.
That had crossed my mind... its just she used to get well mad with friends who'd cheat, like actually angry with them and stuff. Thats why if she has a new bloke its so out of character. 2 weeks ago when I felt something was up i asked if she was happy. I even said are you happy with us do we need a bit of time apart. She said she wants me and to not be stupid. I just don't get it. On Tue everything was great, wed different girl.
My experience is that sometimes you have no idea what they are up to and then all of a sudden the bomb gets dropped, hopefully I'm way out on this in your case though.
They are odd things sadly, it kind of makes you understand the whole being gay thing at times, must be much easier apart from all the bumming and things.
Same here m8, its just one of those things, its called keeping her options open! you may find this other bloke is a total a$$hole but says the right things, but she cant judge him from past history cos there is none, but she knows you like a book, knows exactly what to say to keep you hanging, thats why you need to stand strong and call the shots!
Dragonball
29-06-08, 12:41
Keep your pecker up mate!
They are odd things sadly, it kind of makes you understand the whole being gay thing at times, must be much easier apart from all the bumming and things.
PMSL :)
How was the Samaritans training? :)
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 12:41
yeah she just different to weeks ago but she said she didn't wanna break up. wed she moved out, I knew she was going out fri nite so sent some flowers to her work so she knew i was thinking of her also incase any guys at work were after her. She text me later that day saying thanks lots of love. I said hope she has good night out. Sat she accuses me of sending text back that day to make her feel guilty about going out. its messed up! She hated friends who'd cheat on their boyfriends.
My experience is that sometimes you have no idea what they are up to and then all of a sudden the bomb gets dropped, hopefully I'm way out on this in your case though.
They are odd things sadly, it kind of makes you understand the whole being gay thing at times, must be much easier apart from all the bumming and things.
:rlol: LOL'd
Sounds like she's cheated and now feels guilty, and wants to get out of relationship because of it. Not that that makes you feel any better.
Whitesupraboy2
29-06-08, 12:44
yeah she just different to weeks ago but she said she didn't wanna break up. wed she moved out, I knew she was going out fri nite so sent some flowers to her work so she knew i was thinking of her also incase any guys at work were after her. She text me later that day saying thanks lots of love. I said hope she has good night out. Sat she accuses me of sending text back that day to make her feel guilty about going out. its messed up! She hated friends who'd cheat on their boyfriends.
this is a classic case of she's trying to make you react so that she can hate you for something you say or do or remove her own guilt.
You should of replied just saying 'sorry that wasnt what i was trying to do' and any further txts she sent not replied too.
I said hope she has good night out. Sat she accuses me of sending text back that day to make her feel guilty about going out. its messed up!
That's just women!!!! You can't say anything to them without it being taken out of context and twisted into something bad - the whole bleedin lot of them have paranoid episodes!!!
think you and me must be brothers, she is laughing at you, think how good must she feel at the mo, just comming out of a 5 relationship, and now not being able to loose, she has this new and exciting thing going on with some other bloke and you are desperate to keep her, showing no matter what she does to you, you will have her back, will say anything just to keep you there.
if you have tried otehr methods the try ignoreing text , and dont react , ask her to collect her stuff soon as she can and hang in there few days, have a break on ur own go see few mates out of town . and see what happens.
mikeyb10supra
29-06-08, 12:50
When she comes for her stuff chain her to a chair, that way she can't leave you. Simple eh?
good one :rolleyes:
I feel for you dude, it must be devestating to lose a loved one in such a way and I hope I never have to experience it first hand in such a way. maybe talk to her mum if you have a good relationship with her parents and see how she feels. Have you been neglecting her lately or being distant ie going out all weekend spending too long on the car?
SilverSoop
29-06-08, 12:50
Just read this thread, sorry Karma, i do know how you feel, i had a similar thing happen to me a while back...:(
Im sorry to hear this mate, i hope you and your girlfriend sort everything out...:)
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 12:50
So i should just act like it don't bother me when she comes to collect her stuff or should i ask if this is it over forever?
if you have tried otehr methods the try ignoreing text , and dont react , ask her to collect her stuff soon as she can and hang in there few days, have a break on ur own go see few mates out of town . and see what happens.
thats what i would do.
Whitesupraboy2
29-06-08, 12:51
So i should just act like it don't bother me when she comes to collect her stuff or should i ask if this is it over forever?
Do not ask that question would be my advice.
Surely you only want to be with her if she naturally wants to be with you?
Do not ask that question would be my advice.
Surely you only want to be with her if she naturally wants to be with you?
Agree with the above. Don't ask that and don't let her know that she's got you round her little finger. You'll be exploited and left hanging.
Gotta move on mate.
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 12:59
Went out last night to get it off my mind. Met a girl who I once had a bit of fun with when out but just didn't feel like doing anything guess because it was just too early.
being with some one just for the guilt is no way of sorting things out so as hard as it is be silent, when she does come around be ready look smart as if ur going out and relaxed dont let the face expression give you away. i just do hope its just a time out thing which happens and nothing more.
If you like let us know when shes coming around and will get a mini meet around ur's
Went out last night to get it off my mind. Met a girl who I once had a bit of fun with when out but just didn't feel like doing anything guess because it was just too early.
Good man. You're on the road to mending already. :)
Chris Wilson
29-06-08, 13:04
Moderators:
Emotional outpourings section, chop chop!! :)
Moderators:
Emotional outpourings section, chop chop!! :)
hmm, that would mean a moderator would have to read all the emotional outpourings...Im a heartless git and I tend to keep my views to myself so it wouldnt be me...
been there seen it and got shitloads of t shirts, in every case it involved another guy:rolleyes: ( i must be crap in bed or summit), be strong and as many have said, do not contact her, any replys to texts keep them short and shrift, i don,t mean act like you don,t give a stuff, but act it cool don,t lose it and get angry at anytime you are with her as she will expect that, (beat a pillow up or something) women cannot get there heads around them not being number 1, she has the upper hand but you can change that around easily;)
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 13:35
being with some one just for the guilt is no way of sorting things out so as hard as it is be silent, when she does come around be ready look smart as if ur going out and relaxed dont let the face expression give you away. i just do hope its just a time out thing which happens and nothing more.
If you like let us know when shes coming around and will get a mini meet around ur's
Great idea, she used to be the one complaing if i went out as she wanted to see me or incase i met someone else. So if i at least pretend i'm going out might make her confused on whats going on and if I've moved on? Its just trying to keep a happy face when she's around thats the hard part.
THANKS TO EVERYONE GIVING ADVICE, I NEED IT! Its true you don't realise what you have till its gone... carry on with with the comments as feel a lot better since reading them.
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 13:38
been there seen it and got shitloads of t shirts, in every case it involved another guy:rolleyes: ( i must be crap in bed or summit), be strong and as many have said, do not contact her, any replys to texts keep them short and shrift, i don,t mean act like you don,t give a stuff, but act it cool don,t lose it and get angry at anytime you are with her as she will expect that, (beat a pillow up or something) women cannot get there heads around them not being number 1, she has the upper hand but you can change that around easily;)
When she contacts me to get some things should I just act cool about it and act its a great idea. Thought of ignoring har but guess that'l just cause her to be angry with me.
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 13:40
Just don't know what to say as she texts not phones. What kinda things should i say when she says ' can i come round to pick up some things'?
Just don't know what to say as she texts not phones. What kinda things should i say when she says ' can i come round to pick up some things'?
answer: only if you come over between 8:00pm and 8:15pm cause I am going out after that...
Jspec Germany
29-06-08, 13:44
Pile her things up in your living room. When she calls, act like you're in a great mood (just in case you're not), and smile throughout the entire phone call. When she says she's ready to drop by to collect her things, say with a big smile, "oh great, I've got everything ready for you, when is a good time?"
edit - if she texts, don't answer. Simple as that.
Just don't know what to say as she texts not phones. What kinda things should i say when she says ' can i come round to pick up some things'?
Send back "yea no problem, im going out tonight so what time are you thinking of?"
I rekon she will ask you where you are going, if she dont ask give up on her.
Just don't know what to say as she texts not phones. What kinda things should i say when she says ' can i come round to pick up some things'?
just text back "yeah sure, let me know what time as i would rather not be there when you collect your stuff as it would upset me" then go on to say would you be able to collect the rest of the stuff within the next 2 weeks so we can both get on with our lives, now she will think "bloody hell" he is already making plans,and that will confuse her, either way it goes you will need to be strong, and look forward, if you go for a beer then leave your phone, NEVER TEXT OR RING when you are pissed, if she knows you are really cut up and upset she will think you are weak,
gaz1 for club agony aunt:D
gaz1 for club agony aunt:D
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That had crossed my mind... its just she used to get well mad with friends who'd cheat, like actually angry with them and stuff. Thats why if she has a new bloke its so out of character. 2 weeks ago when I felt something was up i asked if she was happy. I even said are you happy with us do we need a bit of time apart. She said she wants me and to not be stupid. I just don't get it. On Tue everything was great, wed different girl.
I had one who was the same, high morals etc. Then she went funny and we split up - found out she'd started seeing someone else behind my back, decided he was better and made her move :rolleyes:. Oh she dumped me on msn too, one of those things she swore blind she would never ever do and anyone that did it should be pitied. :search:
Try and forget about it (I know it's hard), remember what you had, get a clean break and move on. Don't go clingy either, it'll just make you feel worse.
just text back "yeah sure, let me know what time as i would rather not be there when you collect your stuff as it would upset me" then go on to say would you be able to collect the rest of the stuff within the next 2 weeks so we can both get on with our lives, now she will think "bloody hell" he is already making plans
I'd go with this too, rather than saying "I'm going out tonight" cos it sounds like an obivous txt and she'll think you're just making it up.
Would be good if you could get 4 or 5 supes round when she turns up though, make it a weekend and make sure you're all outside having a BBQ with a few beers or something, all having a laugh and a good time!! :D
I had one who was the same, high morals etc. Then she went funny and we split up - found out she'd started seeing someone else behind my back, decided he was better and made her move :rolleyes:. Oh she dumped me on msn too, one of those things she swore blind she would never ever do and anyone that did it should be pitied. :search:
Try and forget about it (I know it's hard), remember what you had, get a clean break and move on. Don't go clingy either, it'll just make you feel worse.
i can beat that i was dumped by text message after being with her and married for 10 years, now how did it go again " dear gary i love you, but i am not in love with you":rolleyes: best thing that ever happened to me, although you don,t realize it at the time:D
BBQ fantastic IDEA invite her parents if you get on with em, and some of ere mate syou get on with , and dont forget the lads and ladies on here to local to ya, when she comes to collect her things be polite and say ur welcome to stay if you wish keep it simple ...
easiest thing to do is be polite, do not harrass her at all and do not under any circumstances be an arse to her in any way as this will just make her think she has done the right thing
its easy for people to say "do this and do that" but its so hard when your in upto you kneck in it all and you cant stop thinking about it
tbh i think it might be the end but just give her space and time and see what happens
all the best with it
emma
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Whitesupraboy2
29-06-08, 18:32
easiest thing to do is be polite, do not harrass her at all and do not under any circumstances be an arse to her in any way as this will just make her think she has done the right thing
its easy for people to say "do this and do that" but its so hard when your in upto you kneck in it all and you cant stop thinking about it
tbh i think it might be the end but just give her space and time and see what happens
all the best with it
emma
Interesting username! Maybe this should of been in members only. :D
point her to the thread make her realise
RobSheffield
29-06-08, 18:41
Just gauge how things go, have no specific plans, deal with anything she says on a whim. If she wants to talk, talk, if she doesn't then don't.
My advice:
1. Be cool. Act as if everything is normal.
2. Let her feel the guilt.
3. Its still your place, enjoy the silence.
4. Go out and enjoy yourself.
5. Meet someone else, maybe lots of them.
6. Don't worry, be happy :)
Mate, totally gutted for you. :( Really know how you feel, and it isn't great. But I'm sure things will work out for the best.
I too didn't attend the basingstoke meet today - mainly as I didn't have my seats in my car, but also because I've spent the entire day trying to save my relationship too..(been with my girl for 5 years next month) Things are not looking too promising here either.
Chin up fella - all the best.
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 21:08
Thanks for the support, I'm trying to get on with things even though I just don't feel like doing anything.
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 21:14
Luckly its my house and my laptop so i can just go on here anytime that I'm alone!
Try and keep yaself busy, sitting about alone will drive you up the wall for the next few days, if you are shallow like me you will soon get over it:D
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 21:24
Try and keep yaself busy, sitting about alone will drive you up the wall for the next few days, if you are shallow like me you will soon get over it:D
Tell me about it i was going mental earlier when i was alone had to get out. Got mates round now but thier on Playstation! Better than no company.....
I know it's probably not much mate, but as you know there are a good few of us Supra owners living very near to you - if you ever fancy doing anything, meeting up or whatever, just give me a shout and if I'm free we can go down pub, or out for a drive, or a mini meet or something...
dangerousandy
29-06-08, 22:06
i can beat that i was dumped by text message after being with her and married for 10 years, now how did it go again " dear gary i love you, but i am not in love with you":rolleyes: best thing that ever happened to me, although you don,t realize it at the time:D
that sucks dude......:(
KarmaSupra Man
29-06-08, 22:23
I know it's probably not much mate, but as you know there are a good few of us Supra owners living very near to you - if you ever fancy doing anything, meeting up or whatever, just give me a shout and if I'm free we can go down pub, or out for a drive, or a mini meet or something...
Thanks mate, think we'll have to have another meet arranged soon as didn't get to todays one. I regret not going, its just i didn't really feel like being sociable earlier you know? Hope you sort things out in your relationship.
Sorry to hear about this chap. There's a few of us in the Basingstoke area, so if you fancy meeting up sometime, drop us a PM (more likely to see it than a thread :) )
just text back "yeah sure, let me know what time as i would rather not be there when you collect your stuff as it would upset me" then go on to say would you be able to collect the rest of the stuff within the next 2 weeks so we can both get on with our lives, now she will think "bloody hell" he is already making plans,and that will confuse her, either way it goes you will need to be strong, and look forward, if you go for a beer then leave your phone, NEVER TEXT OR RING when you are pissed, if she knows you are really cut up and upset she will think you are weak,
gaz1 for club agony aunt:D
Good Advice :thumbs:
Sounds like she's not 100% sure that the new chap is an upgrade yet so she's keeping her options open.
Spot on.
Change the locks and get yourself on the first flight to Bangkok. Women are waiting to love you long time.
all the best with it
emma
Why banned? Something to do with this thread?
Why banned? Something to do with this thread?
:yeahthat: ?
Moving on is very easy said then done,That's good then.
They are odd things sadly, it kind of makes you understand the whole being gay thing at times, must be much easier apart from all the bumming and things.
I thought that your "failed traders convention" post couldn't be bettered but that has run it close Michael......:D
To be honest KSM it sounds as if she has either met someone else or is having doubts about you both. you can never predict other peoples behaviour but being distant is a big sign of someone else getting her attention.
Question is, why would you want to have a relationship with someone who has no back bone and is deceitful. If anyone treated me like this I would not even consider having them back as it will only happen again (because you have allowed it). It's hard and you heart will want them but you must trust your head.....;)
Time to move on mate, you'll only regret it if you do get her back!! In the long run I would bet my house on it being doomed.
H.
Professor Kenny
30-06-08, 09:44
To be honest KSM it sounds as if she has either met someone else or is having doubts about you both. you can never predict other peoples behaviour but being distant is a big sign of someone else getting her attention.
Question is, why would you want to have a relationship with someone who has no back bone and is deceitful. If anyone treated me like this I would not even consider having them back as it will only happen again (because you have allowed it). It's hard and you heart will want them but you must trust your head.....;)
Time to move on mate, you'll only regret it if you do get her back!! In the long run I would bet my house on it being doomed.
H.
This sounds like good advice to me. Sorry to read about this mate, I hope you get to a better place soon.
Why banned? Something to do with this thread?
Banned member posting under a psuedonym. ;)
Banned member posting under a psuedonym. ;)
That's a big word for a Monday morning Doug...:blink:
Jurgen-Jm-Imports
30-06-08, 09:59
http://encyclopedia2.thefreedictionary.com/Psuedonym
I'm fast coming to the conclusion men talk about this 'relationship' stuff a lot more than women do!
cheekymonkey
30-06-08, 10:50
I'm fast coming to the conclusion men talk about this 'relationship' stuff a lot more than women do!
There must be something in the air at the moment!
Guys have feelings aswell... mostly bout our supes on here but still!! lol
chin up mate. as its been said before you dont wanna be with someone who cant talk to you.. screw that mate been ther done that its the worst..if she can't face up to it then your better off without her.. yeh its gonna suck for ages but once youve dealt with it means you can get ur groove on in the single world bud.. and you have a supe so its not all bad!
oh and the next tip is that if u break up for a while and she comes crawling back.. dont do it!! its never the same!
KarmaSupra Man
30-06-08, 17:34
Luckly when I visited her at her parents and we broke up I took the house keys off her. Not because I'm nasty. But because i thought well if we've broken up and its my house that I bought and all the furniture etc I paid for why should she have the keys? I don't wanna risk her coming round and taking stuff when I'm out. Also funny thing is when I got home and checked they were the right keys, she had kept one certain key- My garage key where my Supe is kept! So ended up going back straight round her parents to get it back! Felt like an idiot going back there so soon but because i wasn't expecting to break up i figured i shouldn't expect her not to do something else thats stupid like trashing my car. Today at work was so hard trying to cocentrate but trying to get on with stuff. Still in 2 minds if wither I'd take her back because she was always such a brilliant girl.....till the other day! Damn I'm still messed up! She's the only person I've broken up with before and gotten so upset. I usually wouldn't give a shit so its so strange its screwing with me so much. Its good to get everyones feedback on what I should do as i didn't have a clue, still in some ways i still don't know. Guess I'll see what happens when she does ask to get her things.....
Have a Beechams hot lemon and a damn good tug and you'll wonder what all the hassle was about.....:D
H.
KarmaSupra Man
30-06-08, 17:41
Have a Beechams hot lemon and a damn good tug and you'll wonder what all the hassle was about.....:D
H.
Have to admit that did make me laugh considering how pissed off I've been!
Supranature
30-06-08, 17:46
Have a Beechams hot lemon and a damn good tug and you'll wonder what all the hassle was about.....:D
H.
:rlol:
Reliably caustic as usual....................
Have a Beechams hot lemon and a damn good tug and you'll wonder what all the hassle was about.....:D
H.
In fact it's such good advice, I'd like to incoroporate this in to my lifestyle regardless :D
KarmaSupra Man
01-07-08, 19:30
Why banned? Something to do with this thread?
Banned member posting under a psuedonym. ;)
''itsmeeee'' was banned? Wasn't my EX on here was it?! Gotta watch her... Surprising how better i feel just days after the breakup. I do still get down in the dumps at some points during the day but not feeling as bad just now. She asked to come round for some stuff earlier. Text me at lunch time, So I said yeah sure call me later I've got some of your stuff looked out already for you to come and get.... I haven't heard a thing since! She leaves me confused on what the hell shes thinking!
''itsmeeee'' was banned? Wasn't my EX on here was it?! Gotta watch her... Surprising how better i feel just days after the breakup. I do still get down in the dumps at some points during the day but not feeling as bad just now. She asked to come round for some stuff earlier. Text me at lunch time, So I said yeah sure call me later I've got some of your stuff looked out already for you to come and get.... I haven't heard a thing since! She leaves me confused on what the hell shes thinking!
Stop worrying about what she is thinking. Worry about what YOU are going to do now. DO NOT WASTE YOUR LIFE WAITING FOR HER...........;)
H.
KarmaSupra Man
01-07-08, 20:08
Your freakin right!
Your freakin right!
No sh!t.......:D;)
KarmaMan
reading this brought back a similar memory i had not too long ago.
One minute everything was fine and then the next i had a text saying she didn't want to see me no more.
She wouldn't talk to me or anything and i found out later she went back to an ex.
The problem is you will stay awake at night pyschoanalysing everything and thinking that you did something wrong. Trust me, you sound like a decent lad and the chances are you have grown apart (her side) and you need to show you're head strong.
I Guarantee to you that in around 6 months or so, you'll look back at this post, with a beatuiful lady in tow and will be laughing.
Chin up, after all you own a Supra!
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Originally Posted by KarmaSupra Man
Your freakin right!
Havard: No sh!t.......
Had to happen sooner or later! :p
KarmaSupra Man
02-07-08, 18:18
Just had her round picking up her stuff so i stayed strong acted cool about it all. She asked what i was doing later so i said i'm going out, she even asked who with so i just said someone. It was nice to see her again but hard knowing i can't get her to stay or touch her, but i'm gonna go out this weekend see who i meet. Try and enjoy the single life like i did before! She said remember were still friends and can see each other and stuff, yeah were friends but sod it i now know she'l probably not come back again and for things to be like they were. So I'm gonna try move on and really hope she comes back weeks later saying she was wrong to leave. So that i can be the one saying things have changed but we can be friends. Its time to enjoy myself! If i can just forget about this shit thats happened and stop feeling miserable, whats done is done.....
If she does come back dont let her straight back in, make her work for it for a few days;)
KarmaSupra Man
02-07-08, 18:26
Don't worry i wouldn't let her back straight away. And if i'm enjoying being single or i've met anyone else and she comes back, I'll take pleasure in telling her i've moved on!
Jspec Germany
02-07-08, 18:55
Go get a new one. She's not worth your time.
Go get a new one. She's not worth your time.
:yeahthat:
and
women are 2 things according to a mate
snakes with t*ts
and
if they didn't have f*nnys you'd throw rocks at them!!
KarmaSupra Man
02-07-08, 19:21
Cheers for all the support that everyones given me for about a week. Its been a really hard time and i've never felt like this before over a girl because i was so close to her. So thanks for all the comments. On to new better things- I hope...
That's just women!!!! You can't say anything to them without it being taken out of context and twisted into something bad - the whole bleedin lot of them have paranoid episodes!!!
Oh really?? :rolleyes: Female member here.........
I had a guy sound/behave exactly that way to me (you summed it up in a nutshell, thanks ;)) It was vile and annoying. Needless to say I knocked it on the head soon after, so please don't make sweeping assumptions :stickpoke:spank:
Karma, you can listen to all the advice in the world but without hard facts - WHY she left you, from the horses mouth so to speak its all pretty meaningless. But, tbh, from her sudden change of heart it really would seem she's met someone who's swept her off her feet very quickly. Your comments would indicate that you were both insecure about each other anyway which is no way to have a relaxed, fun relationship - which is how it should be ;)
Its heartbreaking but time truly is a healer. You have some great mates on here who are behind you 100% and hopefully you will have a fresh start and lotsa fun for a while!!! ;)
All the best mate :hug:
Linda
xx
KarmaSupra Man
02-07-08, 19:41
I didn't show my emotions to her earlier but did say have you met someone else just so i know now rather than find out later. She still says she hasn't and wants to see how things go for now. She wants to be friends and meet up still even maybe this weekend but not sure at the moment if i will. I'll just have to wait a while and see if she has been telling the truth all this time and its just that we grew apart or if someone else is on the scene. Still at least i have learn't a lot from being with her and sure when i meet that new special person things will be even better! Trying to look to the future...
Jurgen-Jm-Imports
02-07-08, 19:54
:yeahthat:
and
women are 2 things according to a mate
snakes with t*ts
and
if they didn't have f*nnys you'd throw rocks at them!!
lol according to a mate :d i like that tom blame your mate lol
lol according to a mate :d i like that tom blame your mate lol
Rugby club mates ;) and 1000% true in the current climate !! :rolleyes:
just remember you have the power to turn this right around, keep active enjoy your own company for a while, don,t be at her beck and call, it sounds to me either
A she has met someone else, (do you think she would tell you if she had)
B you have grown apart and she wants more from life than she is getting, which could be true as us guys do struggle with what women want:rolleyes:
C she thinks you are an arse and she is giving you a wakeup call
if its B or C then there is hope for you two, (but let her do some running
if its A then she would never get another sniff in with me
all the best mate whatever pans out;)
suprafan72
02-07-08, 23:25
:yeahthat:
and
women are 2 things according to a mate
snakes with t*ts
and
if they didn't have f*nnys you'd throw rocks at them!!
Your such an expert
suprafan72
02-07-08, 23:26
Oh really?? :rolleyes: Female member here.........
I had a guy sound/behave exactly that way to me (you summed it up in a nutshell, thanks ;)) It was vile and annoying. Needless to say I knocked it on the head soon after, so please don't make sweeping assumptions :stickpoke:spank:
Karma, you can listen to all the advice in the world but without hard facts - WHY she left you, from the horses mouth so to speak its all pretty meaningless. But, tbh, from her sudden change of heart it really would seem she's met someone who's swept her off her feet very quickly. Your comments would indicate that you were both insecure about each other anyway which is no way to have a relaxed, fun relationship - which is how it should be ;)
Its heartbreaking but time truly is a healer. You have some great mates on here who are behind you 100% and hopefully you will have a fresh start and lotsa fun for a while!!! ;)
All the best mate :hug:
Linda
xx
:rolleyes:Some people huh!!!:blink:
Your such an expert
I wish, but its always good how no matter how much a woman f*cks something up or has a part in doing so it is always the guys fault:taped:
Not always, ive been a b@stard a few times:d
Not always, ive been a b@stard a few times:d
Poor Jamie :p The women even have you feeling guilty ;)
I did say sometimes
I wish, but its always good how no matter how much a woman f*cks something up or has a part in doing so it is always the guys fault:taped:
No you said always:p
No you said always:p
ok so in my experiences, its always lol, but errors are usually from both sides and women always like to make us believe we (guys) are the only ones.
changing the subject, found a nice manual yet? :innocent:
:yeahthat:
and
women are 2 things according to a mate
snakes with t*ts
and
if they didn't have f*nnys you'd throw rocks at them!!
Your mate sounds like a proper charmer :rolleyes:
Vicki x
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